God, being the source of all energy and the creator of everything we have ever known to exist, obviously cannot be defined in human terms. Male and female are human terms. Religion is a human invention. In my opinion, God does not possess a gender. God does not subscribe to a particular religion. That being said however, we as humans have a need to understand things. For us to better understand things we have to put them in a human perspective. For some people, to make it easier to relate to God, they may choose to see him as a man. For others, they may find comfort and ease in relating to God if she is a woman. The idea of God is such a huge and encompassing 'being' and such a grand idea, some people and religions like to personify each of God's characteristics into different beings, representing spirits of God such as love, destruction, judgement - or even God's creations that contain the spirit of God like the sun, the moon, animals..
What I'm saying is.. we should be less worried about defining God and instead focus on simply trying to connect to that higher Spirit and power. If a Christian chooses to believe there is one God and he is a man and he should be worshiped in a church, they are not wrong. If a Dianic Wiccan chooses to worship under a full moon to a female triple Goddess, they are not wrong. If a Pagan finds peace in the presence of God in nature, and worships many different faces of God, they are not wrong. The point is to be close to the Spirit of God, we may find the path to that closeness in different ways. That doesn't make anyone wrong or right, "wrong and right" doesn't even apply to the situation. There is no wrong or right way to finding a way to personify God in a way that makes sense to you, and allows you to be close to him.
I grew up in Southern Baptist churches, and while I don't agree with all their belief systems, I learned a lot about God and am grateful for the time I spent in the church. I think anyone who grew up belonging to a modern religion (really almost any religion, save a very few) were told at least once that they're religion was superior or 'right', and all others were 'wrong'. It's one of the main things that has turned me away from these religions. Because even as a child, I didn't understand how anyone had the authority to make such a claim. If God is the supreme being that I believe him to be, then how can we as humans understand the mechanics and secrets of God enough to be able to proclaim we are in possession of the one true practice. The God I worship is too big for me to fully comprehend, and I like it that way. I strive to understand and learn more and more everyday, and I believe I do.. but it's a never ending journey. So if I am praying thanks to God for the moon and its cycles, then I may pray to the female aspect of God. If I am asking for protection I will pray to God, my father. What I'm saying is, there isn't just one way to pray, so just pray; there isn't a right or wrong way to worship, so just worship; no one has the authority or knowledge to say which personification of God is 'right', if any, so find the best way for you to relate to God, because the point is just to relate. When someone finds themselves in that direct connection with God, in the presence of the Great Spirit, they are never worried about whether or not he is a man or not, if he disagrees with Hinduism or if his name is Allah.. because these things are frivolous.
We are all from God, so we are all connected. We are all one. We need to stop damaging those connections and trying to alienate others, and start strengthening and celebrating our connections we have with each other and the Great Spirit.